Let’s get to it! Here’s part 2 of – Self love is selfish? Nope. Loving yourself isn’t wrong (and here’s why).
Remember this is week 2 of 4 in the Love like a Carnivalista series. Today’s video covers 2 more self love myths and why they are wrong.
Myth #2:
Self love is a sign of arrogance
- Having been accused of being arrogant myself (by men and some women), this is a myth with which I am very familiar.
- Here are actual phrases and/or underlying messages you may have heard yourself: How dare you love yourself as a black woman? How dare you put your needs before mine? Who do you think you are? (I’ve actually been asked this last question by a man before in the workplace)
- Let me be clear. Loving yourself is not being arrogant! True self-love involves humility and self-awareness. When you’re self aware and you take the steps to feed yourself, your body and your soul – show yourself love – that is trememdous!
- So when someone asks you how dare you, or others talk about you and say the same thing, remember this mantra, “What others have to say about me is none of my business.”
- Say it multiple times a day, write it down, make it a screen saver on your phone because as you embark and continue your self love journey, someone will say it to you.
- I promise you, when you start to put yourself first, your relationships and how others perceive you will shift and that is more than okay.
Myth #3:
Self love is unnecessary or indulgent
- I don’t understand this myth! Saying that being kind to our selves is unnecessary? What?? Or loving ourselves is indulgent? The truth is, self love is essential for our well-being and personal growth.
- I personally believe we’re meant to fulfill 2 things in this life – find our purpose and to grow. We’re not meant to stay the same. We all grow and change. And 1 way you can grow right now that will shift your world, is loving yourself.
- There are so many of us who are walking bodies of self loathing. That self loathing then spills out into the world. What is on the inside, shows up on the outside.
- When you really love yourself on the inside, just as you are, it shows on the outside. And this is essential to the people around you. It’s essential in your city, in your state, in this country.
- When you love your self, you have more to give to others and you:
- Set healthier boundaries
- Have better relationships/situations that don’t exploit or harm you
- The benefits of this go on and on!
Now over to you:
- Tired of being at the bottom of your list and ready to show yourself some love? Comment below and let me know.
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Huggin’ you up…
Esha
About Esha: Esha Herbert-Davis is the Carnivalista in Chief of the Carnivalista Lifestyle. While traveling to see 5 out of 7 continents, she has unlocked her self love and teaches others to do the same. She’s passionate about loving yourself through amazing travel. To learn more, visit her website: click here.